Don’t let anyone disrespect you in front of other people

Boy…have most of us not been victim to this. I clearly remember being called upon with the nastiest emotional blows within a select group of people or even friends.

I was always the type of person to let the issue slide if I was made felt insulted amongst people. I used to discuss this matter in private with the person. But guess what? I was just being too respectful and naive on my end.

This time I didn’t let it slide. Be it friends or anyone, I made sure to get the bull by the horns.

Here is how you deal with someone who disrespects you in front of other people. A method I used to end this once and for all.

Types of disrespect

Know what type of situation you are dealing with. There are two types of disrespect.

1. The public kind
2. The private kind

The purpose of public disrespect is to lower your status in the group and that my friend can be very very nasty.

How I did it

The idea here is that if someone belittles you it raises the status of the person doing it. You need to handle the situation quickly, but without attaching an emotional charge to the response (don’t lose your sh#t). Which is the hardest part. You must not let it slide.

You have to become an outlet, when you touch it, you get electrocuted.

But how do you do that?

First thing: take a deep breath and calm your nerves.

Second thing: you look the person straight in the eye.

Don’t flinch, don’t blink, don’t put your head down and don’t shout.

Just say: “I don’t like the way you’re talking to me”… loud and clear, then don’t add anything else. Don’t lower the tension, hold the gaze.

With this reaction, you have produced a tension that the other person will have to dissipate and back down. Most people are not ready to go to confrontation and even when they are ready to go, you will have the advantage.

Stand up (don’t fallback AT ALL!)

Remember this:

Everyone respects someone who stands up for themselves. No one respects someone who lies down.

Don’t be afraid to confront them right away, the whole group will learn that it’s better not to pick on you.